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WEDDING forbidden
By
Abu Hafs Osama bin Kamal bin Abdir Razzaq
5. Marriage Syighar.
That guardian diurusnya girl to marry a man with the condition that she marry well with the girl diurusnya.
Nafi 'said: "Syighar is a man marry the daughter of another man and he married her daughter without a dowry. Or a man marry my sister the other men and then she married him anyway with his pe-rempuannya without dowry. "[33]
An-Nawawi said: "The scholars agree that marriage is forbidden." [34]
As for the hadiths about this marriage prohibition is as follows:
Hadith narrated by Muslim in Shahiihnya of Ibn 'Umar anhu, that the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam said:
لا شغار في الإسلام.
"There is no syighar marriage in Islam." [35]
At-Tirmidhi narrated from Ibn 'Umar anhu, that the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam forbade syighar. "[36]
At-Tirmidhi narrated from 'Imraan ibn Hushain radi anhu, that the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam said:
لا جلب ولا جنب ولا شغار, ومن انتهب نهبة فليس منا.
"Do not be evil, not to be disobedient, should not be doing syighar. And he did plunder, so he's not one of us." [37]
Al-Bukhari narrated from Ibn 'Umar that the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam forbade syighar. And syighar daughter is marrying someone with the condition that the person with his daughter marry him anyway, without any dowry between them. [38]
Some Statement The Ulama:
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah rahimahullah said: "Allah has made obligatory dowry and do not require witnesses. Whoever said that the marriage was valid without any dowry and not valid unless in the presence of witnesses, that he had to abort what God required and oblige him what God is not required.
This includes proving that the people of Medina and the expert opinions of the hadith is more authentic than the opinion of the prohibition of marriage syighar Kufa. The reason is simply because it negates dowry. So, whenever there is a dowry, the marriage became legal. "[39]
6. Marriage tahlil.
That married women who had been divorced three after the expiration of the 'iddahnya then divorced him back to give to her first husband. This is one of the major sins and abominable deeds which Allah forbade, and cursed culprit, based on what was narrated from the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam about it.
At-Tirmidhi narrated in his Sunan from 'Abdullah ibn Mas'ud radi anhu, he said: "The Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam cursed muhallil and muhallal lahu." [*] [40]
Meaning muhallil from tahlil, the person who marries a divorced woman with the intention of three divorced after intercourse so that people can marry mentalak three back.
The Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam likening person who has done this with deer lent. As Ibn Majah narrated from the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam, that he said: "Shall I point out to you about the deer that lent?" They said: "Of course, O Messenger of Allah." He said: "It is muhallil, may Allah curse muhallil and muhallal lahu." [41]
Opinions Opinions Cleric:
At-Tirmidhi rahimahullah said: "The practice of this is done on the scholars of the Companions of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam whom was' Umar ibn al-Khattab, 'Uthman ibn' Affan, 'Abdullah bin' Umar and much more, and it was is the opinion of jurists and Tabi'in. [42]
Shafi'i rahimahullah said: "Marriage muhallil, who narrated that the Messenger of Allah curse him, for Allah knows best-us-as well as mut'ah marriage, because marriage is not an absolute, if required in order to marry her to perform sexual intercourse. Basically , she performed the marriage ceremony against him until he fucked. If he had intercourse with her, then finished with the woman's marital status. "[43]
Ibn Qudama rahimahullah said that overall, the marriage is haram again muhallil bathil the opinion of all scientists, whether trustees said: "I menikahkanmu him to fuck you," and when it requires menggaulinya, then no marriage between them, or if they have menggaulinya for the first time then he should divorce her. It was narrated from Abu Hanifah that the marriage is valid but the condition is not valid.
Ash-Shafi'i said: "Both the first form is not valid, while for the third there are two opinions.
Ibn Mas'ud said: "Muhallil and cursed through oral muhallal lahu Muhammad sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam, and we have the history of the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam: 'May Allah curse muhallil and muhallal lahu.'" [44]
'Umar ibn al-Khattab radi anhu said when he was delivering the sermon: "By Allah, it is not confronted me and muhallal lahu muhallil but I stoned them. Because both are adulterers." And since marriage to a time, or in which there are requirements that hinder the continuity of marriage, then the marriage is similar to mut'ah.
Nafi 'narrated from Ibn' Umar anhuma, that a man asked him: "I'm married to a woman for menghalalkannya for (ex) husband, while he did not tell me and he does not know." He replied: "There should be, except for the wedding of a desire (which is normal), if admirable about you, keep and if you do not like, ceraikanlah. Indeed, we consider the time of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam as adultery." [45]
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah rahimahullah was asked about people who say: "If the divorced woman has fucked someone (who married) on the anus, then he is permitted to her husband, whether this is true or not?"
He replied: "These are the words bathil, menyelisihi of opinion of the Imams of the Muslims are distinguished and the Imams of the Muslims more. Therefore, the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said to a woman who divorced three (later married to another man and wanted to return to her husband who pertama.-ed.):
لا حتى تذوقي عسيلته ويذوق عسيلتك.
'Not until you taste the honey and he felt madumu.' [46]
It is nash (text) on the need to feel each and honey is not the case with (how fucking) anal. There are no known menyelisihi this opinion. Opinion is odd opinion diselisihi by the saheeh Sunnah, and anyway there has been consensus before and after. "[47]
He also asked about tahlil humans do today: "If there is at what they do for the provision of rights, testimony, and the machinations of the other strategy, whether it is valid or not?"
He replied: "tahlil which they agreed with her husband-both pronunciation and custom-order divorced woman, or husband has intended such is forbidden. Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam cursed her.
7. Between Marriage And The Forbidden:
a. Marriage in the time of 'iddah and marrying pagan women than kitabiyyah (Jewish and Christian women):
Based on the word of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala:
ولا تنكحوا المشركات حتى يؤمن ولأمة مؤمنة خير من مشركة ولو أعجبتكم ولا تنكحوا المشركين حتى يؤمنوا ولعبد مؤمن خير من مشرك ولو أعجبكم أولئك يدعون إلى النار والله يدعو إلى الجنة والمغفرة بإذنه ويبين آياته للناس لعلهم يتذكرون
"And do not marry polytheistic women until after their faith. Truly believing slave woman is better than a woman polytheists, even though he impress you. And do not marry idolaters (with women believers) before they believe. Truly believing slave is better than the idolaters even though he impress you. They took into Hell, but Allah invites to Paradise and forgiveness by His leave. And Allah explains the verses (commands) to man so they take lessons. "[Al-Baqarah / 2: 221]
b. Marriage with women forbidden because senasab and mushaharah (family relationships as marriage).
According to his words:
حرمت عليكم أمهاتكم وبناتكم وأخواتكم وعماتكم وخالاتكم وبنات الأخ وبنات الأخت وأمهاتكم اللاتي أرضعنكم وأخواتكم من الرضاعة وأمهات نسائكم وربائبكم اللاتي في حجوركم من نسائكم اللاتي دخلتم بهن فإن لم تكونوا دخلتم بهن فلا جناح عليكم وحلائل أبنائكم الذين من أصلابكم وأن تجمعوا بين الأختين إلا ما قد سلف إن الله كان غفورا رحيما
"Forbidden unto you (married) mother-mother; children were female; brothers were women; your father brothers were women; mother's brothers were women, the daughters of thy brethren the men; daughters of thy brethren that women, mother-mother who menyusuimu; brother sepersusuan woman; mothers wives (in-law); children are in pemeliharaanmu wife of the wife that you have little control, but if you have not mixed the wife was (and have you divorce), it is not sinful to marry you; (and forbidden) wives of your real son (in-law) and accumulate (in marriage) two women were sisters, but that has happened in the past, the real Allah is Forgiving, Merciful. "[An-Nisaa '/ 4: 23]
c. Forbidden to marry women who are forbidden because dairy; based on the verse quoted above and as will be explained later in this chapter: Woman who Permitted and the Forbidden.
d. Nor should gather between women with her aunt.
Based on the words of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam:
لا يجمع بين المرأة وعمتها ولا بين المرأة وخالتها.
"There should be collected between women with her aunt (from the father) and the woman with her aunt (mother's side)." [49]
In a narration of Abu Hurairah, he said: "Then shown to us, that his aunt (mother's side) has the status (position) of the same." [50]
e. Women are forbidden to her husband after the third divorce, and not permissible for her to marry a man other than a wedding fair (not tahlil). [**]
According to his words:
فإن طلقها فلا تحل له من بعد حتى تنكح زوجا غيره فإن طلقها فلا جناح عليهما أن يتراجعا إن ظنا أن يقيما حدود الله
"Then if the husband mentalaknya (after the second divorce), then she is not lawful unto him thereafter until she marries another husband. Then if the other husband divorces her, it is no sin for them (the former first husband and wife) to marry again if they feel that they can keep the limits ordained by Allah ... "[Al-Baqarah / 2: 230].
f. People who are berihram should not be married.
Based on the words of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam:
المحرم لا ينكح ولا يخطب.
"People who are ihram should not marry and should not be too woo." [51]
g. Should not marry a woman who is still married, and must not marry a woman adulterer.
Based on the word of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala
الزاني لا ينكح إلا زانية أو مشركة والزانية لا ينكحها إلا زان أو مشرك وحرم ذلك على المؤمنين
"Men do not marry but the adulterous woman taken in adultery, or idolatrous women, and women who do not marry but adultery by men whose air-adultery, or men idolaters, and such is forbidden on those who believer. "[An-Nuur/24: 3]
h. Forbidden to marry more than four women.
According to his words:
فانكحوا ما طاب لكم من النساء مثنى وثلاث ورباع
"So women marry (other) that you enjoy: two, three, or four." [An-Nisaa '/ 4: 3].
Shaykh Ibn Baaz was asked about marrying a woman kitabiyyah (Christians or Jews): "Does Islam allow married women kitabiyyah when a Muslim country is Christian, and he needs people to pay attention to life and worry about the contrary?"
He replied: "Perhaps if the woman is married kitabiyyah maintain themselves again instead adulteress. Because God requires it to women who guarded her chastity. Kitabiyyah If women are known to maintain himself and away from the means of evil, God allows it, and he justifies women and their food to us.
But in today's times many negative impacts dikhawatir will befall the Muslim men who marry them. Because, sometimes, they take her to their religion, or it causes children to be Christian. The danger is very great, and the best for the believers is not married. Because women are generally not kitabiyyah avoid humiliating acts and (feared to be) on behalf of her children from other men. Most cautious attitude for a believer, although it appears that this woman is not adultery and maintain themselves, are not married and do its best to marry a Muslim woman-mukminah. But it does not matter if it needs it, so that he can maintain his views with his cock and maintain. In addition, he sought to take him to Islam, and beware of ugliness and attempt to drag her or dragging her children to disbelief. "[52]
[Copied from the book Isyratun Nisaa Minal Alif Ilal Well, writer Abu Hafs Osama bin Kamal bin Abdir Razzaq. Indonesia Edition Complete Guide to Marriage From A To Z, Translators Saikhu Ahmad, Ibn Kathir Publisher Library - Bogor]
WOMEN AND forbidden is permissible (to marry)
By
Abu Hafs Osama bin Kamal bin Abdir Razzaq
Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala says:
حرمت عليكم أمهاتكم وبناتكم وأخواتكم وعماتكم وخالاتكم وبنات الأخ وبنات الأخت وأمهاتكم اللاتي أرضعنكم وأخواتكم من الرضاعة وأمهات نسائكم وربائبكم اللاتي في حجوركم من نسائكم اللاتي دخلتم بهن فإن لم تكونوا دخلتم بهن فلا جناح عليكم وحلائل أبنائكم الذين من أصلابكم وأن تجمعوا بين الأختين إلا ما قد سلف إن الله كان غفورا رحيما) 23 (والمحصنات من النساء إلا ما ملكت أيمانكم كتاب الله عليكم وأحل لكم ما وراء ذلكم أن تبتغوا بأموالكم محصنين غير مسافحين فما استمتعتم به منهن فآتوهن أجورهن فريضة
"Forbidden unto you (married) mother-mother; children were female; brothers were women; your father brothers were women; mother's brothers were women, the daughters of thy brethren the men; daughters of thy brethren that women, mother-mother who menyusuimu; sepersusuan sisters; mothers wives (in-law); wives, children who are in pemeliharaanmu of the wife that you have little control, but if you have not mixed with wives were (and are you divorce), it is not sinful to marry you; (and forbidden) wives your birth son (in-law) and accumulate (in marriage) are two brothers of women, but that has happened in the past surely Allah Forgiving, Most Merciful. And (also forbidden to marry you) are married women, except for the slaves that you have. (Allah has set laws) as his statutes upon you., and lawful for you except such (are) looking for wife- wives with your wealth in marriage, not to commit adultery. wives so you already enjoy (meddle) between them, give them dowry (perfectly), as an obligation ... " [An-Nisaa '/ 4: 23-24]
Al-Bukhari narrated in Shahiihnya from Ibn 'Abbas, "Seven (a group) is permitted to marry for reasons of lineage, and seven (group) mushaharah reasons (related by marriage / marriage)." Then he read, حرمت عليكم أمهاتكم "Forbidden unto you (to marry) mom-mom ..." [1]
Al-Hafiz said in al-Fat-h: "In the history of the track ath-Thabrani than Maula Ibn 'Abbas, Ibn' Abbas, mentioned at the end of the hadith, '... then he read: حرمت عليكم أمهاتكم' Forbidden to top you (to marry) your mothers, 'until verse: وبنات الأخ وبنات الأخت' daughters of your brethren that males daughters of thy brethren that woman. 'then say:' This is senasab . 'Then read, وأمهاتكم التي أرضعنكم' mother menyusuimu your mother, sister sepersusuan, 'until verse, وأن تجمعوا بين الأختين' And gather (in marriage) two women were sisters, "and read: ولا تنكحوا ما نكح ء ابآؤكم من النسآء "And do not marry women who marry the father." (An-Nisaa '/ 4: 22), and then say,' This is related by marriage. '"[2]
Al-Hafiz said in al-Fat-h: "Calling sepersusuan with related by marriage (Shahr) is allowed, as well as another man's wife. They all (haram to be married forever), but gather in between the two brothers and another man's wife.
Included in the category of people who have mentioned is the former wife's grandfather, and maternal grandmother, and so on up. Similarly, paternal grandmother, and granddaughter of boys and so on down. Similarly granddaughter of girls and young women from sister niece and so on down. Similarly niece daughter of brother, daughter nephew of the brothers, sisters, and aunt (father's side) and so on up. Similarly, maternal aunt, both the father and mother, and so on up. Similarly, the father's aunt (mother's side), wife's grandmother and so on to the top, and girls from stepdaughter and so on down. Similarly, the daughter of stepson, wife of grandson of the sons and grandsons of the girls, and Meng-communion between a woman with her aunt, both the father and mother. "[3 ]
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah rahimahullah said: "The women are forbidden because of lineage, hence its resolve that all the relatives of a man of lineage it is unlawful, except girls' uncle, both the father and mother, and her aunt's daughters , both the father and mother. Fourth class is permissible by Allah to His Messenger with His words:
يا أيها النبي إنا أحللنا لك أزواجك اللاتي آتيت أجورهن وما ملكت يمينك مما أفاء الله عليك وبنات عمك وبنات عماتك وبنات خالك وبنات خالاتك اللاتي هاجرن معك وامرأة مؤمنة إن وهبت نفسها للنبي إن أراد النبي أن يستنكحها خالصة لك من دون المؤمنين
"O Prophet, verily We have to justify to you your wives, you have given her dowry and the slave that you have included what you earn in the war whom God has given you, and (so did) the daughters of his brother man your father, the daughters of your father's sister, daughters of the brother of your mother and the daughters of your mother's sister who also emigrated with you and a female believer who gives herself to the Prophet if the Prophet wanted to marry her as a specialization for you , not to all the faithful ... '"[Al-Ahzaab/33: 50]
So, Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala to justify his Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam, from the ladies, the four groups, and Allah does not make it a specificity for him so it does not apply to other believers. Unless the woman who donated her (offered to marry), then He made it as a significance. He may marry a woman who donated her without a dowry, and this does not apply to other than him; based on the agreement of the Muslims. "[4]
Then, Shaykh al-Islam rahimahullah said: "As for relating to women that are forbidden because related by marriage, then all women related by marriage lawful for him except the four groups., And is contrary to the relatives, in which the whole forbidden to marry unless four groups.
The relatives of both husband and wife are all halal, except for the four groups, namely the ex-wife's father, former wife of son, wife's mother (in-law), his wife and children. Anathema to both husband and wife (for siding) parents and children respectively.
Forbidden the boy's mother married his wife; including the wife of his maternal grandmother and father, and so on up. He is also forbidden to marry the daughter of his wife, stepson and the granddaughter of his wife, daughter and so on down. Also girls from stepdaughter also is unlawful.
He is forbidden to marry his father's wife, and so on to the top, and his son's wife and so on down.
The four groups that are forbidden in the Qur'aan as related by marriage. The four groups were forbidden by the agreement; except stepson, he was not prohibited until (unless) the man had interfered with his mother.
The daughters of these two women and (daughters of) his mother, it is not forbidden. He must marry the daughter of his father's wife [*] and (the daughter of the wife) son [**] based on consensus of the scholars: for he is not a wife. Unlike the step-daughter, step-child because the child is a step-grandchildren. Likewise, wives daughters mother (mother-in-law) is not prohibited, [***] because he's not a real mother. Hence the fuqaha said: 'The girls from the women-except the forbidden is forbidden girls aunt of the father and of the mother as well as mother-wife, ex-wife and father and son are also forbidden. "He classify girls from stepdaughter as women are forbidden: but do not impose it on children over the three women. Here's what I did not know there was a dispute in it. "[5]
Al-Bukhari narrated that 'Abdullah ibn Ja'far Why collect the daughter of' Ali and his wife Ali.
Ibn Sirin found it does not matter. As for al-Hasan originally memakruhkannya, then argue why not. [6]
Al-Bukhari narrated from Anas, he said: "والمحصنات من النسآء (An-Nisaa '/ 4: 24), women who married more independent is haram, إلا ما ملكت أيمانكم' slaves Unless you have, '( An-Nisaa '/ 4: 24). He argues, why did not someone take a female slave from her male slave. "
Al-Hafiz said in al-Fat-h: "Much of what is meant by muhshanaat married women, namely that they are illegitimate, and that is with the exception of his word, إلا ما ملكت أيمانكم 'Except ye slaves have, 'is the captive women, if they are married, they are permitted for the prisoner. "[7]
Stepchildren Prohibition Two Girls And Women Gathering Brothers.
وربائبكم اللاتي في حجوركم من نسائكم اللاتي دخلتم بهن فإن لم تكونوا دخلتم بهن
"... Your wife and kids are in pemeliharaanmu of the wife that you have little control, but if you have to mix it with your wife (and you already divorce) ... "[An-Nisaa '/ 4: 23]
According to Ibn 'Abbas Radhyallahu anhu, (is a) dukhul (interference), Masis and lamas (touch) is jima' (Sunday). [8]
Al-Bukhari narrated from Zaynab, radi anhuma of Umm Habibah, he said: "I asked: 'O Messenger of Allah, do you want the daughter of Abu Sufyan?' (In a story: 'Marry my sister, the daughter of Abu Sufyan'). He replied: 'I'm going to do what?' I said: 'You marry her.' He asked: 'Do you like it?' I replied: 'I'm not jealous of you, and the woman I love with you with me is my sister.' He said: 'It is not lawful for me.' I said: 'I heard that you woo middle.' He said: 'Princess Umm Salamah's that?' I replied: 'Yes.' He said: 'If he's not my stepson, he still is not lawful for me, and I and his father were both fed by Tsuwaibah., Therefore, do not offer your daughters and your sisters to me.' "[9]
According to al-Hafiz rahimahullah, is a rabibah wife was the daughter (stepdaughter). Then he said: 'Abdurrazzaq, Ibn al-Mundhir said of the track and other than Ibrahim ibn' Ubaid of Malik bin Aus. He said: "I have a wife who was giving birth to me. When he died, I saw in her lap. Then when I met 'Ali bin Abi Talib, he asked:' What happen to you? 'I was telling him. He asked: 'Did he have children of women (ie, from men other than you)?' I replied: 'Yes.' He asked: 'Is he in pengasuhanmu?' I replied: 'No, he's in Tha-if.' He said : 'Marry!' I asked: 'And what about his words, وربائبكم' and girls' wife? 'He replied:' He is not in pengasuhanmu. '"Atsar is valid from' Ali Radhyallahu anhu. [10]
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah rahimahullah said: "The prohibition to collect two sisters based on texts (text) al-Qur-an, and should not be anyway (combining) among women with a paternal aunt and among women with a maternal aunt. Not to be a woman Older women married after the younger brother (married), or vice versa. Having already enshrined in the hadeeth that the Prophet sallallaahu 'aliahi wa sallam. forbids it. narrated that he said:
أنكم إذا فعلتم ذلك قطعتم بين أرحامكم.
'If you do that, then you have to decide the ties of kinship between you.'
Although one of the two others volunteered to marry, should not be fixed. Therefore, it tabi'at changes. Therefore, when Umm Habibah offered to the Prophet sallallaahu 'aliahi wa sallam in order to marry his sister, he asked him:' Do you like it? 'He replied:' I'm no longer alone, and the most eligible women in virtue with me is my sister. 'But he said:' It is not lawful for me. 'said to him:' We talked that you will marry the daughter of Abu Salamah girl. "He replied:
لولم تكن ربيبتي في حجري لما حلت لي, فإنها بنت أخي من الرضاع, أرضعتني وأباها أبا سلمة ثويبة أم أبي لهب, فلا تعرضن علي بناتكن ولا أخواتكن.
'If he's not my stepson who is in pengasuhanku, he still was not lawful for me: because he is the son of my brother sepersusuan. Me and her father suckled by Tsu-waibah, the mother of Abu Lahab. Therefore, do not offer your daughters or your sisters to me. '[11] And it is agreed upon by the scholars. "[12]
Al-Bukhari narrated from Jabir radi anhu, he said: "The Messenger of Allaah wa sallam forbade aliahi married woman with her aunt, aunt both paternal and maternal." [13]
Forbidden From Sepersusuan As The Forbidden From lineage: [14]
Al-Bukhari narrated that 'Aisha radi anhuma, the wife of the Prophet sallallaahu' aliahi wa sallam, to tell his 'Umrah bint Abdurrahman that the Prophet sallallaahu' aliahi wa sallam was at his side, and he heard a man's voice asking permission Hafsah home. He said: "I said: 'O Messenger of Allah, there are people who ask for permission at the house.' He said: 'I saw the so and so.' Apparently uncle of sepersusuan Hafsah. " 'Aisha asked: "If the so and so is still alive-uncle' Aisha of sepersusuan-if he could see me?" He replied: "Yes, sepersusuan forbidden as seperanakan." [15]
Al-Bukhari also narrated from Ibn 'Abbas, he said: "Asked the Prophet sallallaahu' aliahi wa sallam: 'Why did you not marry the daughter of Hamza?' He replied: 'He is my brother's daughter sepersusuan.' "[16]
Breastfeeding period.
Al-Bukhari narrated from 'A'ishah radi anhuma that the Prophet sallallaahu' aliahi wa sallam met, was at his side there is a man, then his face seemed to change (as) did not like it. 'Aisha said, "He is my brother." He said:
انظرن ما إخوانكن, فإنما الرضاعة من المجاعة.
"Look at your brothers. Breastfeeding because it was (given as a rescue from) starvation." [17]
Al-Hafiz Ibn Hajar said: Al-Muhlib said: "Prohibition sepersusuan simply (happening) in childhood until breastfeeding is fighting hunger." Abu 'Ubaid said: "The meaning of" watch what is on your brothers ... and so on, "is the baby hungry, and the food that satiates is the milk of breastfeeding." His word: "Behold, breastfeeding is just (given as) rescue from hunger", meaning that establishes breastfeeding forbidden and permitted 'Aisha was alone with her when the baby was breast-fed, where the milk was overcome hunger. Among the ahaadeeth is the hadeeth of Ibn Mas'ood supporters: "There is no breastfeeding except what can strengthen bones and flesh cultivating." [18] And the hadith of Umm Salamah: "It is forbidden unless a glut of sepersusuan intestines. "[19]
Later, al-Hafiz v said: "It can be used as an argument that at one sitting does not become haram, because it does not eliminate hunger." Al-Hafiz said about the breastfeeding period. Said, no more than two years of age. It is narrated from Wahb Malik, and such is the opinion jumhur (the majority of scholars). Their argument is the hadeeth of Ibn 'Abbas: "There is no breastfeeding except under (age) two years." [20]
Number of Cascade.
The scholars disagree about the amount of breastfeeding which causes illegitimate (marriage). There are a number of different hadith of Umm al-Mu'mineen 'Aishah radi anhuma, there is mention ten times, seven times, and five times in one sitting, and the most authentic history of Muslims is mentioned five times feedings.
Al-Hafiz Ibn Hajar said in a report narrated by Muslim from 'A'ishah radi anhuma: "Among the verses of al-Qur'an was revealed about ten feedings known. Then eliminated with five feedings known. Then the Messenger of Allaah wa sallam aliahi died, and that is what is read. "[21]
While the history of 'Abdurrazzaq with a saheeh isnaad from' Aisha radi anhuma, he said: "No cause of illegitimate less than five feedings known." [22] Imam ash-Shafi'i think so. It also includes a history of opinion Ahmad and Ibn Hazm. Al-Bayhaqi narrated from Zayd ibn Thabit with a saheeh isnaad that he said: "No cause of illegitimate at one sitting and three times the wet nurse." Hadith are strongest among the hadiths on this issue is that the hadith 'A'isha radi suckler anhuma about five times. The (mean) hadith: "No cause of illegitimate at one sitting and two feedings," then maybe just a example of breastfeeding were less than five times. If not, the prohibition to three feedings and so was taken from knowingly (context) hadith. But this is disputed by others who understand the hadith narrated by Muslim, which is five times the feedings. [23]
Suckling of Milk.
Imam Muslim narrated in Shahiihnya of 'Urwah ibn az-Zubair, from' Aisha, she told him that Aflah, brother Abul Qu'ais, came to ask permission to him-he was the uncle sepersusuan-after the verse about hijab. 'Aisha said, "But I refused to give him permission. When the Prophet sallallaahu' aliahi wa sallam came, I told him about what I was doing, so he asked me to let him see me."
In one story: "Because he is your uncle. May you be blessed."
Abul Qu'ais is a breastfeeding woman's husband 'Aisha radi anhuma. [24]
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BANS celibacy
By
Abu Hafs Osama bin Kamal bin Abdir Razzaq
Meaning tabattul (celibacy), Imam an-Nawawi rahimahullah said: "Tabattul here is to keep away from women and did not get married because they want to continue to worship God." [1]
Hadiths prohibiting celibacy quite a lot, including:
1. Hadith al-Bukhari narrated from Sa'd ibn Abi Waqqas radi anhu, he said: "The Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam refused it to' Uthman bin Mazh'un. Wish he allow her to remain single, we necessarily celibate." [2]
2. Al-Bukhari narrated from Abu Hurayrah radi anhu, he said: "I said: 'O Messenger of Allah, I was a young man and I'm afraid to weigh myself, and I do not have anything to marry her.' But he mendiamkanku. Then I say that again to him, but he mendiamkanku. Then I say it like that anymore, so the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "O Abu Hurayrah, the pen has dried up with what you encounter (naturally); mengebirilah or her stay. '"[3]
Shaykh Mustafa al-'Adawi said-word comment on the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam: "Mengebirilah or leave it" - "It's like the word of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala:
فمن شاء فليؤمن ومن شاء فليكفر
'Whoever (wanting) faithful let him believe, and whosoever (want to) let him kafir infidel.' [Al-Kahfi/18: 29]
And this verse not allow infidelity. "[4]
Ummul Mu'mineen 'Aishah radi anhuma, met the Hisham ibn Sa'id said, asked him: "I want to ask you about the single life, how do you think?" He replied: "Do not do it! Did not you hear Allah Almighty says:
ولقد أرسلنا رسلا من قبلك وجعلنا لهم أزواجا وذرية
'And verily We sent some Messengers before you and we give them wives and offspring ... "[Ar-Ra'd / 13: 38]
Therefore, you shall not celibacy. "[5]
No "pastoral (monkhood)" In Islam.
'Aisha radi anhuma said: "I see Khuwailah bint Hakim ibn Umayya ibn Haritha bin al-Auqash as-Salamiyyah, and she was the wife of' Uthman bin Mazh'un." He continued: "When the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam saw her condition bad, he asked me: 'O' A'isha, what Khuwailah worsen? 'I replied:' O Messenger of Allah, he is a woman who has a husband who is always fast during the day and waking night (for prayer). He is like a man who has no husband. Therefore, he allowed himself and blew it. 'Then the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam sent messengers to 'Uthman bin Mazh'un (so he came to). When she came to him, then he asked: 'O' Uthman, do you hate the Sunnah? 'He replied:' No, by Allah, O Messenger of Allah, even Sunnahmu I'm looking for. "He said: 'Verily I sleep, prayer, fasting , breaking, and married several women; then fear Allah, O 'Uthman, because your wife has a right upon you, your guest has a right on you, and you have rights over you. Therefore, fasting and eat, Pray and sleep. '"[6]
Ash-sya'bi reported: Ka'b bin Sur been sitting on the side of 'Umar ibn al-Khattab radi anhu, then a woman came up and said: "O Commander of the Faithful, I do not see anyone better than my husband. Sake of God , she always pray at night and always fast during the day. " Hearing that 'Umar beg pardon for him and praised him, but this woman was embarrassed and went home. Ka'b said: "O Commander of the Faithful, do you not help this woman (get the right) over him. Because she had been complaining to you." 'Umar said to Ka'b: "Decide the case between them, that you understand the business what I do not understand it." He said: "I saw him like a woman with three other wives, and he was fourth., Therefore, I decided three days and three nights in which he (the man) to worship in it, and for her (she's) day and night." 'Umar said: "By Allah, do you think the first one is not more amazing than the last. Go! Thou a Qadi (judge) of Basrah. Qadhi is best of you." [7]
From 'Abdullah ibn' Amr ibn al-'Ash radi anhu, the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam said: "O 'Abdullah, is it true what I heard that you always fast during the day and evening prayers?" I replied: "Yes, O Messenger of Allah." He said, "Do not do it! Fasting and eat, get up and go to sleep, because the body has a right over you, your eyes have a right over you, your wife has a right upon you, and your guest has a right on you. Suffice you fasted three days a month, for you will get on each virtue ten times that. So, it is like fasting all the time. " When I insisted, I myself ended up trouble. I said: "O Messenger of Allah, I still have the ability." He said: "Then David Alaihissallam fasted with fasting and do not add to it." I asked: "How fasting Allah Prophet Dawud Alaihissallam?" He replied: "Half of the time." 'Abdullah said after the old: "Duhai if only I received waivers from the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam." [8]
Al-Marwazi said: Abu 'Abdillah Ahmad ibn Hanbal-that-said: "Life was not a lackey of the teachings of Islam. Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam married 14 wives, and his death left nine wives. Wish Basyar ibn al-Harith married , will be the perfect affairs. Suppose unmarried man, surely there is no war, no pilgrimage, and no such and such. Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam married, while they do not have anything, and he died leaving his wife and 9 choose to marry and would recommend it. he forbade celibacy. Whoever hates Sunnah of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam, then he was on top but the truth. Jacob, the sorrow, still married and have children., and the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam said: "Put in my heart the love of women." [9]
I told him, narrated from Ibrahim ibn Ad-ham that he said: "Indeed, the fear of a man who bears a heavy burden of the family ..." Before I could finish my words, he suddenly (cut and) yelled at me and said: 'We are trapped in the narrow streets.' Look, may God save you-what is done by His Prophet, Muhammad sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam, and his Companions. "Then he said:" It is the child crying in front of her father to ask for bread to him, it's better than so and so. How could a celibate religious experts could match people who are married? "[10]
Doubtful:
Meaning Tabattul Al-Qur-an.
Shaykh Muhammad ibn Isma'il said: Among the things that ought to be mentioned that al-Qur-an ordered tabattul in His Word:
واذكر اسم ربك وتبتل إليه تبتيلا
"Say the Name of your Lord, and bertabattullah (Worship) to Him with diligence." [Al-Muzzammil/73: 8].
The meaning of this verse is the command to use all of his time to God with a sincere worship.
As Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala:
وما أمروا إلا ليعبدوا الله مخلصين له الدين
"And they were not told except that worshiping God with obedience to Him purifies the (men-run) straight religion ..." [Al-Bayyinah/98: 5].
While there is no prohibition tabattul the Sunnah. And referred to him is disconnected from the people and the community, the path of the clergy to leave the marriage, and became a priest in places of prayer. So, tabattul commanded in al-Qur'an and the Sunnah prohibited. Linkages different commands with regard ban; then the two are not contradictory. And Muhammad sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam was sent to explain to people what was revealed to them.
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Footnote
[1]. HR. Muslim, Sharh an-Nawawi (III/549).
[2]. HR. Al-Bukhari (no. 5074) book an-Nikaah, Muslim (no. 1402) book an-Nikaah, at-Tirmidhi (no. 1086) book an-Nikaah, an-Nasa-i (no. 3212) book an- Nikaah, Ibn Majah (no. 1848) book an-Nikaah, Ahmad (no. 1517).
CHOOSING THE WIFE AND VARIOUS criteria
By
Abu Hafs Osama bin Kamal bin Abdir Razzaq
There are many criteria required of women, and encouraged married women who have a variety of criteria. It is enough to mention the most important criteria.
First:
Obey RELIGION AND HIS VERY LOVED.
Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala says:
إن أكرمكم عند الله أتقاكم
"... Verily the noblest among you in the sight of God is the most righteous among you ..." [Al-Hujuraat/49: 13].
He said:
فالصالحات قانتات حافظات للغيب بما حفظ الله
"... Because it is the righteous woman, who was obedient to God longer maintain themselves when her husband was not there, because God has kept (them) ..." [An-Nisaa '/ 4: 34].
Al-Bukhari narrated from Abu Hurayrah radi anhu, that the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam, he said:
تنكح المرأة لأربع: لمالها ولحسبها ولجمالها ولدينها, فاظفر بذات الدين تربت يداك.
"Women married for four cases: for wealth, offspring, her beauty, and her religion; then choose a religious woman, surely you're lucky." [1]
O my brother, this does not mean that beauty is not necessary. But the question is not to restrict the beauty, because it is not a principle for us in choosing a wife. Choose because of his religion, and if not, then you will not be happy. Namely, covered with soil in the form of disgrace that would happen to you after that because the wife does not have a religion.
From 'Abdullah bin' Amr is marfu ', he said: "Do not marry a woman for her beauty, because it could be that her beauty would memburukkannya, and do not marry her because of his wealth, his property could be made exceed the limit. However, marry a woman over religious matters. It was the slave woman who cut off part of his nose again black but is better to be religious. "[2]
Shaykh al-'Azhim Abad said: "The meaning of' fazhfar bidzaatid deen (religion having a pick) 'that are appropriate for people who have good manners, and religion is that religion becomes pertimbagannya in everything, especially with respect to the companion of life. Therefore , the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam commanded that seek religious woman who is top of the search. Taribat yadaaka, which is attached to the ground. "[3]
Ibn Majah narrated from the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam, that he said:
ما استفاد المؤمن بعد تقوى الله خيرا له من زوجة صالحة, إن أمرها أطاعته, وإن نظر إليها سرته, وإن أقسم عليها أبرته, وإن غاب عنها نصحته في نفسها وماله.
"A believer is not to benefit after the fear of Allah, which is better than a woman who shalihah: If you ordered it, obey it, if looked at him, she made him happy, if sworn against him, he fulfilled his vow, if traveling left, then he is sincere to him by keep her and her husband's property. "[4]
Imam Ahmad narrated from the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam:
من سعادة ابن آدم ثلاثة: المرأة الصالحة, والمسكن الصالح, والمركب الصالح, ومن شقاوة ابن آدم: المرأة السوء, والمسكن السوء, والمركب السوء.
"Human happiness is threefold: Women who shalihah, good place to live, and a good vehicle. While his passion man is: Women are bad (temper), poor shelter, and vehicles are bad." [5]
Ibn Majah narrated from Tsauban, he said: "When it comes down (verse al-Qur-an) of silver and gold, they asked: 'Then the treasure should I use?' 'Umar said:' I'll tell you about it. ' Then he rode his camel to follow the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam, while I followed behind. Then he asked:' O Messenger of Allah, what treasures will we use? ' He replied: 'Let any one of you have a grateful heart, dhikr oral and faithful wife to support (his motivation), one of the guys on the case hereafter.' "[6]
It is a parable of The Prodigal Life On Women Religious, And Many Asking their About (Women Spokesperson).
Of Asma 'bint Yazid al-Anshariyyah, he came to the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam when he was in the midst of his Companions and said: "My father and mother as ransom, Messenger of Allah. Messenger of the women I'm with you. Know-myself as ransom - that not a single woman in the east and west are hearing this departure but he agreed with me. Verily Allah sent you with the truth to men and women, and we believe in you and to your Lord who sent you. Our women are limited; stay in your homes, your lust impingement point, and contains your children. while you, men, exceeded over us with prayers and the Friday congregation, download jenguk sick, watching the bodies, pilgrims after the Hajj, and more important than it is jihad fii sabiilillaah. If a man of you out for Hajj, berumrah or jihad, we maintain your property, cleaning your clothes, and take care of your children. Then what can make us get a reward like what what you get, O Messenger of Allah? " Hearing this, the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam turned to his friend, then asked: "Have you ever heard the words of a woman who is better than she was in her question about the affairs of religion?" They said: "O Messenger of Allah, we did not think there was a woman who download instructions can be like this." Then the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam turned to him and said to him: "Go, O woman, and tell the lady behind you that if any one of you be kind to her husband, seeking Allah's approval and menyelarasinya, then reward like all of that." Then this woman turned to bertahlil and bertakbir as excited as the Lord the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam. [7]
Illustration About Women That his embarrassment did not stop Asking About His religion.
Al-Bukhari and Muslim narrated from Umm Salamah radi anhuma, he said: "Umm Sulaym came to the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam, and asked:' O Messenger of Allah, Allah is not ashamed of truth. Are women required to shower if dreaming? ' The Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied: "If he saw the water.'" Umm Salamah covered her face and asked: "O Messenger of Allaah, if a woman dreaming?" He replied: "Yes, I hope you are lucky, then from where children can look like him?" [8]
They Know What Is Women Look for Science And Virtue.
Al-Bukhari narrated that when women feel the primacy of science, they went to the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam and asked him a special assembly for them. Abu Sa'id said: "A woman came to the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam and said:' O Messenger of Allah, men are left with haditsmu, then give it to us the day of the time in which we come to you this day that thou teach us of what God has taught you. ' He said: 'Assemble you on this day and that day at such and such.' They were gathered, and the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam came to them to teach them what God taught him. Then he said:' It is not a woman of you prioritize the three cases of children, but it is a veil for him from the fire of Hell. ' Then a woman of them said: 'O Messenger of Allah, two?' He repeated it twice. Then he said: 'Two, two, two.' "[9]
In the history of an-Nasa-i says: "It is said to them: 'Go to Heaven.' They said: 'As our fathers go.' Then told: 'Come you along with your fathers.' "
Second:
DO NOT KNOW THE WORDS reprehensible.
Asked to Ummul Mu'mineen 'Aishah radi anhuma: "Who is the most important woman?" He replied: "That woman does not know the words are deplorable and do not think to deceive her husband, and her heart was empty except adorned for her husband and to maintain her family."
An Arab preach to us about a woman who should be shunned, when thinking of marriage.
He said: "Do not marry six types of women, namely the annanah, mannanah, hannanah, and do not marry haddaqah, barraqah, and syaddaqah."
Annanah is that many women moaning, complaining and holding his head all the time. Therefore, married people are sick or feigning illness to no avail.
Mannanah is a woman who likes to bring up (the good) in the presence of her husband, saying: "I have done so and so because of you."
Hannanah is the woman who is always longing for her husband to another (the former) or children from another husband. It was the kind that should be shunned.
Haddaqah women archery is everything with his eyes and then loved it and weighed husband to buy it.
Barraqah contains two meanings:
1. The woman who wore makeup throughout the day so that her face was glistening obtained by meriasnya.
2. Angry about food. He does not eat unless alone and master part of everything. Yemen's language. They said: "Bariqat al-Mar-ah wa ash-Shabiyy Bariqa ath-Tha'aam," if angry at the food.
And syaddaqah is a talkative woman. [10]
Third:
IN THE NATURE is be patient and not be sad.
Al-Bukhari narrated from Ibn Mas'ud, he said: "The Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:
ليس منا من لطم الخدود وشق الجيوب ودعا بدعاء الجاهلية.
'Not including the slapped cheek from me and ripped pocket and exclaimed with calls Jahiliyyah (when it gets disaster).' "[11]
The appeal of Ignorance, as al-Qadi said: "He is mourned by condemning the deceased."
In the book of al-Shahiihain, from Abu Musa al-Ash'ari, he said: "Abu Musa ill, and then he passed out and his head was in the lap of one of his wife, then his wife screaming and Abu Musa was not able to prevent the slightest. When sober , she said: 'I am innocent of the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam distanced themselves from him. because the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam innocent shaliqah, haliqah, and syaqqah. [12]' "[13]
Abu Dawud narrated from a woman who also inducted the Prophet, he said: "Among the contents of the promise made by the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam upon us in virtue of which we can not break them is:' We should not be clawed face, should not be condemned, should not tear up clothes, and should not be ruffled. '"[14]
Muslim narrated from Umm Salamah in Shahiihnya radi anhuma, he said: "When Abu Salamah died, I said: 'He was foreign and alien on earth.' Indeed, I will weep for the cry of the people will continue to be discussed. I was ready to weep for her. Suddenly there came a woman of mean plateau with me (in tears). Then the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, confronting asked:' Do you want to enter devil into the house that God has freed him? ' Uttered twice. Then I resist tears, so I do not cry. "[15]
Fourth:
HE DOES NOT SIN UNDERSTATEMENT.
Suhail Ahmad narrated from Ibn Sa'ad, he said: "The Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said to me:
إياكم ومحقرات الذنوب, كقوم نزلوا في بطن واد فجاء ذا بعود وجاء ذا بعود, حتى انضجوا خبزتهم, وإن محقرات الذنوب متى يؤخذ بها صاحبها تهلكه.
'Do not you underestimate the little sins, like the people who were in the valley of the abdomen and each one brought a piece of wood so that they can cook their bread. Indeed, when the little sins that perpetrators are punished, then those sins will harm him. '"[16]
Fifth:
IA noble.
This is the woman who always associate him with his noble character.
Ibn Ja'dabah said: "In the midst of the Quraysh was a depraved man. But his love charity, and he's affluent. When he married her, certainly she would divorce her because of poor moral and lacking his wife fortitude. Then he proposed to a woman who is domiciled noble Quraish. He has been getting news about the moral evils. When the dowry was decided between them, the man said: 'O woman, to me there is a real bad character and it depends on the fortitude, if you will be patient with me (then we continue this marriage), but if not, then I do not want memperdayamu on me . 'She said:' Indeed the moral worse than you is the person who brings the bad character. "Eventually this woman to marry him, and has never happened in between the words (divorce) until death parts in between. "[17]
Sixth:
IN THE NATURE is NOT TELLING ABOUT OTHER WOMEN to her husband.
Al-Bukhari narrated from 'Abdullah ibn Mas'ud radi anhu, that the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam, he said:
لا تباشر المرأة المرأة فتنعتها لزوجها, كأنه ينظر إليها.
"Do not let her hang out with other women and told it to her husband, as if her husband saw." [18]
Seventh:
IA NOT WEARING PERFUME (OIL WANGI) out of his house WHEN AND PRESERVE her hijab.
Muslim narrated from Abu Hurayrah radi anhu, he menutur her: "The Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:
أيما امرأة أصابت بخورا فلا تشهد معنا العشاء الآخر.
'Anyone women bloat himself with incense (the perfume), then let him follow the prayer' Isha 'were last with us.' "[19]
This is in conjunction with the prayer: then what about the woman who left the house with ornate and wear perfume for other than pray?!
In fact, the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam has told us that prayer is not accepted, had he gone to the mosque in this state. From Abu Hurayrah radi anhu, that he met a woman who wears perfume on their way to the mosque, he said: "O servant of Allah, the Mighty, you want to go?" He replied: "To the mosque." Abu Hurayrah said: "To go to the mosque you wear perfume?" He replied: "Yes." Abu Hurayrah said: "I heard the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:
أيما امرأة تطيبت ثم خرجت إلى المسجد لم تقبل لها صلاة حتى تغتسل.
'Any woman who wears perfume then out to the mosque, the prayer is not accepted until he showered.' "[20]
In the history of Ahmad:
فتغتسل من غسلها من الجنابة.
"So he had to shower as she showers from the impure."
The Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam reported that when women wear perfume in his house and came out so people smell it, then he is a fornicator. The Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:
أيما امرأة استعطرت فمرت على قوم ليجدوا من ريحها فهي زانية.
"Any woman who wears perfume and passes in front of the people that they smell her, then he is a fornicator." [21]
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CHOOSING THE WIFE AND VARIOUS criteria
By
Abu Hafs Osama bin Kamal bin Abdir Razzaq
Eighth:
IN BETWEEN NATURE awrah is that she DID NOT SEE OTHER WOMEN.
Based on the words of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam in the hadith narrated by Muslim from Abu Sa'eed al-Khudri, from his father that he said:
لا ينظر الرجل إلى عورة الرجل ولا المرأة إلى عورة المرأة, ولا يفضي الرجل إلى الرجل في الثوب الواحد, ولا تفضي المرأة إلى المرأة في الثوب الواحد.
"Do not look at the genitals of a man other men, and women do not also look at other women's private parts. A man should not be with another man in a cloth, and should not be also women with other women in a cloth."
In a history:
ولا ينظر الرجل إلى عرية الرجل, ولا تنظر المرأة إلى عرية المرأة.
"There should be one man sees another male genitalia and a woman should not look at other women's private parts." [22]
Ninth:
IN THE NATURE is that she obey her husband.
If she obeyed her husband besides disobedience to God, it includes residents of Paradise, insha Allah.
Ath-Thabrani narrated from Anas ibn Malik radi anhuma, that the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Shall I inform you of your men who are in Heaven?" We said: "Certainly, O Messenger of Allah." He said: "The Prophet was in heaven, as-Siddiq was in Heaven, who visited his brother in the corner of the country solely because God is in Heaven. Shall I inform you about the woman who is in Heaven?" We said: "Certainly, O Messenger of Allah." He said: "Women who are loving and fertile (many children)-that is dear to him and obey him, and a lot of bearing children. If her husband is angry or upset by it, then he said: 'It's hand in hand, I will not sleep until you pleasure. '"[23]
Tenth:
WIFE THE BELIEVERS DO NOT ASK DIVORCE her husband.
If a wife fear of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala, he will not ask for a divorce to her husband forever, so if so ordered her parents.
Narrated Tsauban radi anhu, that he said, "the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:
أيما امرأة سألت زوجها الطلاق من غير ما بأس فحرام عليها رائحة الجنة.
"Any woman who asks her husband for divorce without a justifiable reason, then he is forbidden to get scent of heaven. '" [24]
An-Nasa-i narrated from Abu Hurayrah radi anhu in marfu ':
المختلعات والمنتزعات هن المنافقات.
"Women who seek divorce, they are women hypocrites." [25]
Al-Muntazi'aat is a woman who divorces himself from the embrace of her husband's wealth without his willingness.
Thus, if he obeyed his parents to seek divorce from her husband, so she had adulterous Allah and His Messenger. They should know that he sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:
لا طاعة لبشر في معصية الله, إنما الطاعة في المعروف.
"There is no obedience to a person in a sinner to God. Obedience is only in doing good things." [26]
Eleventh:
IA NOT IN ADDITION undressed her home, her hijab PRESERVE AND HE ALWAYS OUTSIDE IN FRONT OF HOME AND FOREIGN PERSONS (not mahram).
Among the properties of the Muslim woman is not mukminah undressed in her home or the home except his brother, father, uncle (father's side) it, or uncle (mother's side) it, if he feels secure that none of the foreigners who see it.
From 'Aisha radi anhuma, the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam, he said:
أيما امرأة وضعت ثيابها في غير بيت زوجها, فقد هتكت ستر ما بينها وبين الله عزوجل
"Any woman who takes her clothes in other than her husband's house, then he has the veil between him and Allah Almighty." [27]
From Umm Salamah radi anhuma, that the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:
أيما امرأة نزعت ثيابها في غير بيتها, خرق الله عزوجل عنها ستره.
"Any woman who takes her clothes in other than her house, then Allah Almighty destroy his blinds him." [28]
The scholars set, she should take off her clothes if you feel secure that foreigners do not see it, in the place they believe, where they know the provisions of God, do not look at genitals Muslim and did not show it to someone.
He must maintain a disyari'atkan her hijab, as Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala commanded in His Word:
ولا يبدين زينتهن إلا لبعولتهن أو آبائهن أو آباء بعولتهن أو أبنائهن أو أبناء بعولتهن أو إخوانهن أو بني إخوانهن أو بني أخواتهن أو نسائهن أو ما ملكت أيمانهن أو التابعين غير أولي الإربة من الرجال أو الطفل الذين لم يظهروا على عورات النساء
"And let them not reveal her jewelry, except for a (regular) appear thereof. And they let me nutupkan veil fabric to her chest, and be not revealed a jewelry them, except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husbands' fathers, or their sons, or the sons of their husbands, or their brothers their men, or the sons of their brothers, or the sons of their sisters, or Muslim women, or their slaves or servants have men who do not have the desire (against women ) or children who do not understand about women's private parts. "[An-Nuur/24: 31]
From Abu ash-Shadafi Adzinah radi anhu, that the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:
خير نسائكم الودود الولود, المواتية المواسية, إذا اتقين الله, وشر نسائكم المتبرجات المتخيلات, وهن المنافقات, لا يدخل الجنة منهن إلا مثل الغراب الأعصم.
"The best of you is a loving wife and fertile (many children), enterprising, and workmanlike, if they fear Allah., And worst of you are wives who like to preen and look reasonable (to deceive her husband), they are women hypocrite who will not enter Paradise except as crows feet and a red beak. [*] "[29]
From Fadhalah ibn 'Ubayd in marfu':
ثلاثة لا تسأل عنهم: رجل فارق الجماعة, وعصى إمامه, ومات عاصيا, وأمة أو عبد أبق فمات, وامرأة غاب عنها زوجها قد كفاها مؤنة الدنيا فتبرجت بعده, فلا تسأل عنهم, وثلاثة لا تسأل عنهم: رجل نازع الله عزوجل رداءه فإن رداءه الكبرياء وإزاره العزة, ورجل شك في أمر الله, والقنوط من رحمة الله.
"There are three groups that they can not be questioned (on the Day of Resurrection), those who broke away from the congregation, leaders disobey and die in a state of lawlessness, slave women or male slave who escaped (from the master), and then die and women were deserted by their husbands in a state dicukupinya worldly needs and she preening after his departure., and three other groups would not be asked (on the Day of Resurrection), who claimed the shawl of Allah Almighty and His scarf is the pride and glory is his gloves, people who have doubts about the case of God, and the people with the despair of the mercy of God. "[30]
Twelfth:
IA helps her husband to obey GOD.
Imam Ahmad narrated from Abu Hurayrah radi anhu, he said, "The Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:
رحم الله رجلا قام من الليل فصلى, وأيقظ امرأته فصلت, فإن أبت نضح في وجهها الماء, ورحم الله امرأة قامت من الليل فصلت, وأيقظت زوجها فصلى, فإن أبى نضحت في وجهه الماء.
'May Allah have mercy on a man who woke up last night to pray that his wife woke him pray. If the wife refuses, then he splashed water on his face. And may God bless the woman who got up well to pray night and then woke her husband so prayer. If they refuse, then he splashed water on his face. '"[31]
Al-Manari commented: "As the water rose or flower."
Dr. Nuruddin Tar said: "The meaning of nadh-h is the spark that is not intrusive and does not cause surprise. Could also use the other like rose water or wiping his face with a little perfume." [32]
Thirteenth:
IN BETWEEN NATURE FOR VIRTUE is LOVE charity.
It is narrated by al-Bukhari and Muslim from ats-Tsaqafiyyah Zainab, the wife of 'Abdullah ibn Mas'ud radi nanhuma. He said, "Messenger of Allah sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:' Bershadaqahlah, O women, although from your jewelry. ' I went back to 'Abdullah ibn Mas'ud and then I told him,' You are the man who has few possessions, but the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam commanded us to bershadaqah. Come to him and ask, if the charity you I get a reward , then I'll give it to you. If not, then I give it to selainmu. ' 'Abdullah said:' In fact, go by yourself to him. ' I went. Apparently there was a woman in front of the Ansar Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam, his business as hajatku. Messenger sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam was given authority. When Bilal came out to meet us, we said to him: 'Come to the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam then preach to him that the two women waiting at the door to ask you:' What is Sadaqah both rewarding when administered to her husband and children orphaned in his custody? Never share who we are. ' Bilal then went to see the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam and asked to him, so he asked him:' Who are those two? " He replied: 'A woman Ansar and Zainab.' He said: 'Zainab Which?' He replied, 'The wife of' Abdullah. ' Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:' They both get two rewards; reward of kinship and the reward Sadaqah. '"[33]
Among its nature is pleased with little, do not complain and like charity, as will be explained in the chapter "Rights husband."
[Copied from the book Isyratun Nisaa Minal Alif Ilal Well, writer Abu Hafs Osama bin Kamal bin Abdir Razzaq. Indonesia Edition Complete Guide to Marriage From A To Z, Translators Saikhu Ahmad, Ibn Kathir Publisher Library - Bogor]
BECOME AN TRADERS affluent ascetic WORSHIP AND EXPERTS
By
Sheikh Abdul Aziz Al Abdul Latif
Verily Allah is the duty of preaching the prophets (may prosperity bestowed upon them), and the way the scholars rabbaniyyin, therefore preach to God is a charitable approach to God are the most important, and most exalted position.
God says.
ومن أحسن قولا ممن دعا إلى الله وعمل صالحا وقال إنني من المسلمين
"Meaning: Who are better words than those who call to Allah, doing charitable deeds, and said:" I am among those who submit? "[Fushilat/41: 33]
And preaching to God, it must be true goal, clean manhajnya (way), here's the mission of our prophet Muhammad sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam and anyone who followed he sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam well, as the word of God.
قل هذه سبيلي أدعو إلى الله على بصيرة أنا ومن اتبعني وسبحان الله وما أنا من المشركين
"Meaning: Say: This is the way (religion) me, me and the people who follow me invites (you) to Allah with tangible proof, Glory to God, and I am not among those who idolaters" [Yusuf/12: 108 ]
It was the Salafush our Salih (may Allah have mercy on them) go down this path, they had merit, and forbidding the teaching of human kindness, expressed most clearly through a variety of ways, such as teaching, treasure, advice, edicts, laws and much more.
And it has established the Salaf Salih mission to expect the face of God, they do not want a reply from the man nor a thank you, and when it was also their honor manhaj safety by following and leave act of heresy.
Islamic Awakening today require knowledge of the deeds and examples of real phenomenon of propagation Salaf Salih: that their circumstances were a driver and encouragement to imitate them, and run over uslub (method of) them.
One of the scholars said: "Whoever saw history Salih Salafush he definitely knows his shortcomings, and the catch of the degree of a man".
And this paper contains propagation phenomena of life Salafush Salih, we will expose it as follows.
Habib Al-Ajami is one of the residents of Basra, affluent merchant, when he attended a council of Al-Hasan Al-Basri (may Allah have mercy on him) and listened to his advice, the advice is pervasive in the hearts of Habib Al-Ajami, since that Habib al- Ajami became a most ascetic and religious experts in the city of Basra.
This is the story for you in detail.
"It is Al-Hasan Al-Basri sitting in his association with each day he held a council on the ground. The Habib Al-Ajami sits in his association and trade world where experts come. And he was negligent with menjelis Al-Hasan Al-Basri, and do not look at all to what is conveyed by Al-Hasan Al-Basri. Until one day he wanted to know what the Al-Hasan Al-Basri, then said to him: "In the assembly of Al-Hasan Al-Basri said about heaven, hell and people are encouraged to get next, and implanted ascetic attitude toward the world (focus all the gifts of God for the Hereafter). So these words stuck dalah him, then he said: "Let us go to the assembly of Al-Hasan Al-Basri", it said, the people who sit in the assembly to Al-Hasan Al-Basri: "O Abu Said was Habih Al-Ajami facing you preach it. Then Habib Al-Ajami facing Hasan Al-Basri and Hasan Al-Basri facing him, then he advise Habib Al-Ajami, he reminded the heaven, he scare the hell, he hasung to do good, he is reminded to apply ascetic in world. So Habib Al-Ajami was influenced by advice, then charity 40 thousand dinars. And he applies qona'ah (received) with a little, and he continued to worship God until death "[1]
Perhaps you saw the honesty Al-Hasan Al-Basri (may Allah have mercy on him) in his preaching, preaching survival purposes, to exhortation made an impression in the hearts of Habib Al-Ajami, honest advice that it has moved from riuhnya voice in the market and trading up to be a lady expert worship and ascetic experts who have an efficacious prayer (answered prayers) and Karamah noble, as he was an expert in charity and berinfak in the way of Allah Ta'ala.
What a wonderful word Malik bin Dinar in this matter: "Honesty is seen in the liver in a weakened state, then the owner of the liver rose look, and add up to make berbarakah God on him, and his words takes on a drug for people guilty".
Then Malik said: "Do you not see them? later he came back to himself: "Yes, by Allah, we have seen them: Al-Hasan Al-Basri, Sa'eed ibn Jubayr and such as they were, a man among them who God turn his words to a group of men" [2]
And when Zainal Abidin Ali ibn al-Husayn heard the advice of Al-Hasan Al-Basri, he said: "Most holy God is the word of an honest man" [3]
One of the scholars were asked: "Why is the word Salaf Salih more useful than our words?" Then he also said: "Because they speak for the glory of Islam, for the salvation of souls, to seek blessings of Allah, Most Gracious, while we are talking to the glory of self, seeking the world and seeking the pleasure of being "[4]
And causes a person to benefit from the advice of Al-Hasan Al-Basri and his association of the assemblies, that Al-Hasan Al-Basri (may Allah have mercy on him) was a good role model, and does not include those who said what he did not do.
It is said to one of his friend Al-Hasan Al-Basri: "Is something causing Al-Hasan Al-Basri reached position like this? And among you there are clerics and Islamic law experts? Friends of Al-Hasan Al-Basri and even then said: "It is Al-Hasan Al-Basri if ordering a case that he was a man of the practice on what he says, and if he was banned by a munkar then he is a man of the most far behind the ban was "[5]
And another thing that we must pay attention to the above events, the attention of Al-Hasan Al-Basri on delicate issues, problems ascetic, and morals, to the extent that Al-Hasan Al-Basri had a special assembly in his association, which he do not talk to him but the meanings and religious ascetic. So if someone asks to speak to other issues because he felt tired, he said: "Verily we retreat together our friends is to dhikr" [6]
Indeed most of the advice and testament of Al-Hasan Al-Basri was about denouncing the world, and the prohibition of extending hope and order to purify the soul, and the correct objectives and intentions.
It would be our quickness to such counsels and restrictions of the clergy, so the previous scholars, the advice giver as Ibn al-Jawzi said. [7]
Said Al-Imam Ahmad bin Hanbal: "How our quickness against dishonest advisers" [8]
And indeed Al-Hasan Al-Basri in most circumstances be ascetic to the world, warning of the world, menghasung to the afterlife, and this is a powerful prophetic way, indeed the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said. which means "Behold the biggest thing I'm worried about you guys is what is excluded from the blessings of the earth", asked: "Is the earth's blessings? She replied:" Flower of life world "[9]
Therefore, Al-Hasan Al-Basri said: "By Allah, I was not ta'ajjub (wonder) with something like astonished me to someone who does not think that love is one of the world's major sin, for the sake of Allah, that love to the world is included great sins, not branches sins because of it but the love of the world? It is not to be worshiped idols, disobeyed Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala but of love the world? (Yes). So who knows no one will complain of humiliation the world, and will not be racing him and not be discouraged as much of the world "[10]
It is true sayings of Al-Hasan Al-Basri, some major sins are grown from the love of the world: theft, adultery, jealousy, lying, arrogant, do riya (like in glory) and in others is because of the love of the world, and the world pounced on each other, even Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala in His book has menghabarkan noble and appropriate disbelief that someone is being punished because of the love and give priority to the world rather than the Hereafter, Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala says.
من كفر بالله من بعد إيمانه إلا من أكره وقلبه مطمئن بالإيمان ولكن من شرح بالكفر صدرا فعليهم غضب من الله ولهم عذاب عظيم ذلك بأنهم استحبوا الحياة الدنيا على الآخرة وأن الله لا يهدي القوم الكافرين
"Meaning: Those who disbelieve in Allah after his faith (he got the wrath of God), except those who disbelieve but their heart is forced to remain calm in the believers (he is innocent), but the people who paved the breast to disbelief, then the wrath of God befall and her great torment. That is because they really loved the life of the world more than the Hereafter, and that Allah will not guide the people who disbelieve "[An-Nahl/16: 106-107]
Here there is a final note: "Behold, some people who repent away from the life of worship, in this case there is a comment, which is not justified that everyone should repent this path: that is decided and ascetic from taking effect causes life of the world is allowed, then that rahbaniyyah (worship by breaking the world) that we prohibited it.
Righteous God who speaks.
وابتغ فيما آتاك الله الدار الآخرة ولا تنس نصيبك من الدنيا
"Meaning: And look at what has been bestowed unto God (happiness) in the Hereafter, and forget not your portion of the (superior) temporal" [Al-Qashas/28: 77]
Because of the real privileges of our religion is valid straight and are central
No Rahbaniyyah and also no maadiyah (materialistic) and only a Muslim's worship of God, trying to do good on earth, it means working with the content that is self-sufficient and not become a burden to others. And it is not known in Islam decided to live only to serve alone but after elapsed time of great virtue (during the Companions), since the arrival of Sufi teachings that do heresy (that are not charitable admonitions of religion), and has been known attitude of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam against three people who inquired about the worship of Allah, prayer, fasting, menikahnya. So when they are told as if they were looking at charity Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam bit. So they determined to menyelisihi deeds, then said the Prophet sallallaahu 'alayhi wa salam, which means: "By Allah I is the greatest fear and pious to Allah, but I fast and break the fast, I pray and I sleep, and I marry women, then whoever hates the Sunnah then it is not included from me "[11]
Abu Nu'aim quoted in the book "Al-Hilyah" with Ibrahim bin Sulaiman sanadnya to Az-Zayyat, where he said:
"It is our stand beside Sufyan Ats-Tsauri, then came a woman and her son complained, she said:" O Abu Abdullah, I come to you so that you advise him? Then Sufyan Ats-Tsauri said: Yes, bring your son. " Then she came with her son, then Sufyan Ats-Tsauri had advised him, after the boy turned away. Kembalillah then after some time the woman and said: "May Allah reward you with goodness, O Abu Abdullah (Sufyan Ats-Tsauri) and he tells her that he loves behaviors after receiving advice Sufyan Ats-Tsauri.
After a while, she came back and said: "O Abu Abdullah, annakku never sleep at night, and during the day he was fasting, not eating nor drinking. Then saith Sufyan Ats-Tsauri: "Woe to you, why would he do that?" She replied: "To find a hadith". Then Sufyan Ats-Tsauri said: "Expect her reward yourselves from Allah," [12]
Sufyan Ats-Tsauri is one of the leading scholars, and a lot of telling the good, is not he afraid of censure those who like to denounce the path of Allah, until one of them said: "It is I am out with Sufyan Ats-Tsauri, it was almost his verbal do not drop out of the telling of the good and forbid munkar well as go or go home "[13]
As a person who is concerned with the condition of the Muslims, and of the story is what was narrated by Yahya bin Yemen: Sufyan Ats-Tsauri and Ibrahim ibn Adham talk at night until dawn, are they both discuss the issues Muslims.
And in this story we see a good temperament in solving problems of the woman her son, she went to Sufyan Ats-Tsauri and explained his problem, and asked from Sufyan Ats-Tsauri order to advise his son. And we've read how Sufyan Ats-Tsauri accept her request quickly, and how well the temperament and attitude tawadhunya, he hastened to fulfill the request and advise his son, then her child temperament to be good, until the woman came to thank Sufyan Ats-Tsauri on his good deeds, and not to be here Sufyan Ats-results advice Tsauri, even the child grew keistiqomahan, behavior and attention in the search for knowledge and the hadith, which caused her condition mengkisahkan her the third time, he said: "My son do not sleep at night and he was fasting during the day ... to seek hadith ".
So the advice was scarred hearts of the young man, until he became a serious pursuit of knowledge in hadith.
As we witness how she keeps track of the state of his son, and mengkhabarkannya to Sufyan Ats-Tsuri, and he subsequently benefit the opinions and advice of Sufyan Ats-Tsauri.
This is a glorious phenomenon of propagation Salafush Salih, and the books that explain biography salafush righteous encountered wonderful stories (in their life), whoever wants to take a sample then let take the example of someone who has died (the companions of the Prophet) , because the people who are still alive are not safe from it slander.
(Ad-Da'wah Magazine Edition 1863)
[Transcribed from the magazine Al-Adh-Islamiyya Dzakhiirah 09/Th.II/2004M/1424H Edition. "A singer who repent hands of Ibn Mas'ud Author Sheikh Abdul Aziz Al-Abdul Latif. Publisher Ma'had Ali Al-Ershad Surabaya, Jl. Sultan Iskandar Muda 46 Surabaya].
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